Blogging it's easy, right? Maybe picking the name or the template is the hard part, but the blogging part we all think is easy, in the beginning. Often we read blogs written by people that make it seem so easy, so effortless. But in reality blogging is not effortless, it's work, it's time consuming, and sometimes it's hair raising!
But I'm still here. Not as often as I was a year ago, but hey I'm still here.
Which brings me to one of the biggest hurdles for new bloggers, comments. Maybe you read a blog and they get 10 comments or 28 comments or hot damn maybe they have 100's of comments. You sit in front of your computer, hit publish and expect people to flock to your post. But you hear crickets. You write a test post or comment making sure it's "working". I've been there a month into starting my blog, I thought it was broken.
The first few months I wrote my blog, barely anyone read it. Okay there were like 5 of you and I probably bribed you with homemade blueberry muffins. But I kept on pushing through. Then I realized, people aren't just going to find me out of nowhere. Even though I have become quite popular on my knowledge of children swallowing plum pits (one of my more popular posts), I was still figuring things out.
Then it happened. I opened the door and found what was missing. I started reading other blogs. I mustered up the courage to stop lurking (reading blogs and never commenting is lurking) and start commenting. I was scared to comment on posts. Two of the first blogs I started commenting on were Never A Dull Moment and A Mom Two Boys. I still read their blogs faithfully and funny enough one of them lives about 6 miles away from me, talk about the law of attraction. Then there was no turning back. It all started from there. After I found my way and comfort with commenting on blogs regularly, people started finding their way to me.
Blogging is a community. I've never felt more strongly about that then in the past week, when the community experienced a tremendous loss. We share a part of ourselves in our writing, sometimes people relate and sometimes they couldn't imagine, but that's the beauty of community. I have blogging friends from DC to NYC to Texas to California to Washington State, and all sorts of little places in between. I have blogging friends that live the next town or two over and I have met them in person. They are no longer strangers, they are my friends.
After finding your niche, reading blogs you enjoy I highly recommend Google Reader, if you don't already use it. It allows you to put all of your favorite blogs into one place, they just arrive after being published, that way you don't have to visit a site to see if there are updates. Or subscribe via email to your favorites.
One little tidbit I'd like to share is my own personal take on commenting around here at EatPlayLove. If someone comments on my blog, I always like to click through their profile and give their blog a read. Typically if I enjoy what the writer has to say, I just add the blog to my reader. But if you don't comment, I won't ever be able to return the pleasure of getting to know you. I will admit, I'm no longer a daily commenter (or comment on every post) but I do read all posts in my reader.
Even though I am fairly new to all of this, I've learned so much from blogging. It's been an adventure that has enriched my life so many times I can't count. I appreciate all of you that stop by to see what's happening in my corner of the world. Say hello and I'll do the same.