I remember clearly from my childhood family and friends that were notorious for the early Saturday morning drop by. On some occasions I still laugh thinking of my mom in her pink plush robe racing to get put together from the moment an unexpected car pulled up, until the doorbell rang. The water would be put on, tea would be poured, a fresh hard roll would be buttered, and conversation would roll like thunder, for hours.
I definitely joke with my friends about random drop by's being a lost part of our culture. We've become much more accustomed to scheduling, which I don't have a problem with. I feel nostalgic for drop by's, I don't quite know why. Recently I was driving with a carload of my friends to celebrate a birthday, when one of our friends said, "yeah my house is the fifth in from the corner drop by anytime". I quickly joked back, "now you know the drop by is extinct don't you". We all laughed. In some ways it's true and in others the drop by is not extinct.
We can bring the drop by back.
But what does this mean for me? If I am notorious for having a messy house through out the day. Sometimes the day spills into night and even the next day. I can't quite explain it. I love a well kept home, but I have to admit I am not neurotic about keeping my house immaculate. It's a work in progress. A notion I better take seriously if I am inviting my friends to just drop on by.
After I wrote a post in April about friendships, I've actually had an influx of drop by's. I think just putting out the idea to people, letting them know it's okay to come by and visit changes people's feelings about always scheduling in advance. One of my friends called me at 8:30 one night, after our hellos, she said oh and I'm sitting out front can I come in? I made a pot of tea and we ate Italian cookies. Just the other night, I convinced a friend to get ice cream with me at 8:15pm, on a whim (well it was a fundraiser). She indulged me, with her sweaty work out clothes and all. Yeah, us!
I know we can bring the drop by back!
For me, I have to work on keeping the house presentable (not immaculate). Oh and a good batch of sun tea in the refrigerator. Maybe even some special cookies in the cabinet above the refrigerator to share during a drop by visit. Doesn't it feel fun, the notion of being out and about, in the neighborhood of a friend and just popping in for a glass of tea?
Let movement start friends, don't let drop by's become extinct.