All Those Babies...
Oh Nadya, Nadya Suleman the woman who's the biggest news story these days. Funny enough even though I am content with my two girls and have opinions about overpopulating our planet, you won't find me attacking someone else's choices. It saddens me that we are so quick to judge and blame, criticize and chastise.
My opinions of her waxed and waned as the news reports flooded every avenue of communication without much information. For me the story first unfolded with a woman had eight babies in California. My response, Good Lord, eight babies. I sat watching the news conference as the Doctors shared, they thought there were seven, but voile baby number eight made her way onto the scene. Then it didn't take but twenty four hours for the judgements to hit the presses. Oh no, she already had six children. She just wanted another. She didn't have a husband. She doesn't have a job. Now she has fourteen children, of which many "may" have medical needs.
Enter in lots and lots of name calling and personal attacks.
But what do I think? I have always felt blessed to become a mother. Pregnancy came very easy for me, even with one surprise. My daughters were both born with 10 Apgars. From day one of seeing two pink lines on a pregnancy test to now, motherhood is something I have never taken for granted. I have friends that struggled with a whole myriad of issues surrounding their pregnancies and one friend that never was able to conceive.
People, this is America. We don't have a limit on the number of children you can have. We are free to give birth until mother nature says times up, even if that's at 60 years old. We GLORIFY families of multiples, hello Jon & Kate Plus 8! Kate has admitted to just wanting one more and she got 6 more. Now they are living the dream in a new million dollar house, thanks to our obsession with watching them. Watching their every move with all those kids, curiosity at it's finest. As for the Duggars I'll refrain, but I watch them too. I shake my head in amazement.
So let's talk about Nadya, a woman who always wanted to be a mother. Who just wanted one more baby. Seems to be the brunt of society attacks. The universe gave her eight more babies. Her life is going to be a struggle, but I don't think we should put her down for wanting to love and care for other human beings unconditionally. I think we'd be hard pressed to find a woman that has gone through the ups and downs of fertility procedures that would actually select to give up a growing baby, a life that is a miracle.
With out knowing this woman, I say lay off of her. Let her live her life embracing the challenges she faces. Deep down I hope that she makes the best choices to give those children amazing lives, for they were destined to be here. Let's think about the Doctors that made these decisions, was it a best practice? There sure will be lessons learned from this. One more thing, let's not judge a single mother for not finding a person to spend her life with, yet. Once again it's America, where women can make the choice to have children even with out a man.
I have a feeling this is not the last we've seen of Nadya. I am sure TLC has her number.